My son locked his bedroom door; luckily he was not in his room. Or maybe I should say, at least he didn't lock his baby sister in the room alone. When I grew up, my parents had the small key that unlocked the bedroom and bathroom doors sitting on the door frame to each room - smart right? When we bought this home, I did notice that the previous owners didn't have that key. But I have to admit I didn't think much about it until yesterday.
While I was cleaning upstairs and getting ready for the day, I went to go into my son's room and it was locked. I asked him about it, he say, "I don't want Zuzu (his sister) in my room." My first thought was -- so this is starting already. And then it hit me, we don't have keys to the bedrooms. I know what you are thinking, just use a paperclip. I tried. It didn't work. My son still had his pajamas on. I just did all the laundry the day before. The only outfit I had for him was yesterday's outfit that was dinner stained. Of well, that was the best I could do.
My son knew I was upset. I am always telling my kids that when you have a problem and you are frustrated --- that is not the time to cry and yell. It is time to think -- use your brain and start figuring things out. There is plenty of time to cry and it is ok to cry. But when you need to problem solve, thinking is best done without tears. I didn't think they were ever listening to me. UNTIL......
Aidan turns to me and says, " I have been thinking..... I have an idea. We can call the Army to blow up the door. And then call Bob the Builder to fix it before Dada comes home from work."
Now that is thinking outside the box. I didn't want to crush his thinking. But I also didn't want him to think that your first idea is always the best idea. I told him," you are thinking and that is an idea. But we need to keep coming up with other ideas."
In the end, I was able to use the paperclip trick. But I guess that isn't the point of the story. The point is.... the kids are listening. It made me pause and think about what and how I say things.